Let’s get to know each other a little bit first & really make sure that this is the right offering to fill your needs. Check out the course curriculum, agreements & policies. If it still feels like a course you’re interested in, fill out the form at the bottom to schedule a time for us to chat. If you’re landing here from Facebook, the FAQ are underneath the scheduler.

Please make sure you’ve read the agreements & policies before scheduling.

CLASS CURRICULUM

Session 1: The Ethics of Pleasure

Session 2: Preparations for Pleasure

Session 3: Containers of Pleasure

Session 4: Practice of Pleasure

Session 5: Integration of Pleasure

Course Container Policies

Agreements:

• You agree to participate fully, and remain engaged for the duration of the course.  If you are unable to do so, you agree to email your intention to leave to M’kali-Hashiki.

• You agree to participate in all assignments and activities in ways that feel useful and relevant to you.  You agree to modify assignments to meet your needs. If you get stuck, you agree to let M’kali-Hashiki know as soon as possible.

• You agree to complete your assignments and submit for feedback each week by the due date.

• You agree to communicate directly with M’kali-Hashiki ASAP if you have any questions or concerns. 

• You agree to not share the content of this class without asking and receiving M'kali-Hashiki's permission. This includes not teaching these techniques to your clients.

• You agree to having each session recorded. If the recordings are used for other online educational purposes, your likeness & voice will be edited out.

• You will communicate any disability access needs and respect the access needs of others. 

• Everyone is expected to self-monitor & to take risks: if you are someone who usually talks a lot in group settings, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your listening & witnessing muscles; if you are someone who usually doesn’t participate that much, you agree to take this opportunity to exercise & strengthen your communication muscles.

Feedback 

As radical healers, we understand the importance of honing our craft through receiving constructive feedback, while simultaneously feeling into our power and strength. We practice giving feedback as a sacred part of our profession. 

Therefore, please use the following criteria to discern and distill the feedback you give.

Ask yourself: 

• Is it helpful?

• Is it timely?

• Is it kind?

More on the word “kind.” In the context that it is used here, it means feedback given with the intention to support that person's learning as opposed to tear someone down. 

If the answer to these questions is "Yes," please share that feedback. If there are things in that feedback that trouble you, the invitation is to be with that discomfort for a little bit.

Culture of Welcome and Belonging: 

The group is explicitly QTIPOC-Centered, meaning that the desires, lived experiences, and safety of Queer & Trans & Intersex People Of Color are centered; meaning that Whiteness, Cisness*, & heterosexuality are not the “default” human states, and that those experiences will not be centered at the expense of others. If you are White and/or Cishet* (or cis* & queer), please be mindful of the ways that your privilege impacts the safety of others, and be mindful of whether you can be comfortable in an intimate setting when you are not the “default human”.

We all have been inundated with kyriarchical** messages & may unconsciously replicate those viewpoints when communicating. When that happens, space will be made for anyone to be lovingly called-in (including M’kali-Hashiki). If called-in, you understand that this calling-in is a gift to stretch your understanding of the world & invite you to be in solidarity with people living in bodies marginalized or multiply marginalized by The State; you agree to take time and check in with your body for somatic signs of defensiveness (clenched jaw or butthole, tightness in chest, a halt in breathing, etc), and to relax those parts before responding. If doing the calling-in, you agree to give the person time to respond. If you need support around being called-in or doing the calling-in, you may reach out to M’kali-Hashiki for that support. 

With that said, anyone using overtly perjoratives or slurs (racist, homophobic, fat shaming, slut shaming, transphobic, ableist, sexist, etc. language about a historically marginalized group that they are not a part of) in communicating with a classmate or in the group will be withdrawn from the course immediately, and no refunds will be given.  

If you have questions, concerns or comments, about anything said in the sessions please contact M'kali-Hashiki immediately. 

All bodies are welcome in our CyberCircle: trans bodies, thin bodies, old bodies, cis bodies, intersex bodies, gender non-conforming bodies, currently-abled bodies, fat bodies, disabled bodies, young bodies, bodies of any class, religion, or spiritual tradition. While there's no way to guarantee that all bodies will be represented in each CyberCourse, it is my intention to have a diverse & welcoming space—so if you have problems being in community with any of the aforementioned types of bodies my events are not the right space for you.

Refund Policy

There are no refunds once you have signed up for the program. This program is designed for folks who are ready to make a serious change in their professional & personal lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. And really, the program is worth a lot more than what I’m charging, and it's a big pain in the butt to deal with refunds. That said, if you go all of the way through the course (the code word is “code”), come to all of the calls and complete all of the assignments and you end up not feeling like you got value out of it, I'll split the difference with you, and send you half of what you paid. 

*cisness/cis/cishet all refer to “cisgender”, a term means that you agree with the gender you were assigned at birth. It is not a slur, it is simply a way to describe people who aren’t trans in a way that avoids othering trans people. This is not up for debate. If you feel that cis/cisgender is a slur, this is a sign that this space is not for you.

**simply put, kyriarchy is the social system that keeps all intersecting oppressions (racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, etc.) in place.