Frequently Asked Questions

Since the passage of the misogynistic SESTA/FOSTA act, many internet entities are engaged in a frightening form of censorship around anything related to sechsuality. Facists are pretending that it's a moral issue, but it's actually just visible expression of oppression which will negatively affect the most marginalized amongst us. Because I do not want to wake up one day & find my site disappeared, I and other folx working in this area are using alternative spellings. If a word looks odd to you, try sounding it out, or noticing if the numbers used could be interpreted as letter substitutes.

Breath is an anchor, a vehicle, a springboard. Breath is the glue that keeps us in our bodies & connects us deeply to those around us. Erotic Breathwork is a way of breathing that allows you to access your erotic energy, and harness it for transformative fuel. It is a series of "conscious breathing techniques": intentional ways of inhaling/exhaling in order to quiet the mind & let the body's wisdom come through.

Erotic Breathwork is not a substitute for diagnosis and/or treatment by a licensed health professional. While breathwork is an excellent way to manage some chronic pain issues, it can exacerbate some lung or heart issues. And although breathwork is an excellent way to manage stress, depression, anxiety, fear, and grief, it can also complicate some mental health issues. A more complete list of contraindications can be found on the registration signup page.

While each of the three sessions are slightly different, they all begin & end the same way. We open with 3 shared breaths, a Land Acknowledgment, an Ancestor Invocation, and a Blessing. We end with optional sharing, the "one word poem", and 3 shared breaths.

My sessions are for people who want to deepen their relationship with their body, their pleasure, and The Divine. Most of my sessions are QTIBIPOC-centered, rather than QTIBIPOC-exclusive. This means that whiteness, cis-ness (agreeing with the gender designation you were given at birth), & heterosexuality are not “the default human”, and that those needs will not be catered to at the expense of people historically multiply-marginalized by The State. The needs, desires, safety, & blessed humanity of Queer/SGL Black, Indigenous, & other People of color are the focus & the foundation of these sessions. If you are white and/or straight & can roll with not being centered and possibly not being in the majority of attendees, you are more than welcome.

You are not welcome at my sessions if you believe in a hierarchical value system for human bodies’ worth—that some bodies are inherently more valuable than other bodies.

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are a "T.R.A.S.H" person (Transphobic, Racist, Ableist, Sexist, or Homophobic).

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are anti-sexworker or believe that it is always trafficking and/or self-degrading.

You are not welcome in my sessions if you are fatphobic or ageist.

The sessions will be held on Zoom. If you don’t already have it, you can download it here. You’ll want the best sound possible, This usually means headphones/earbuds & wired internet. WiFi & a speaker can work just fine depending on the strength of your connection and the quality of your speaker.

You want to be somewhere comfortable without a lot of bright light. You should have on non-restrictive clothing (if you’d like to be nude—a great option!—you can do so after the break), a blanket, some water, something to write/take notes with/on/in (or art supplies), whatever cushions you need to be comfortable, and possibly some tissues.

You’ll receive a more detailed email before the session.

With the exception of the Moon Rituals (which are limited to 15), there is no limit to how many people may join a session. The interactions between attendees is kept to a minimum, you are on your own intimate journey, in your own private bubble. But all of us together create a CyberCircle of Healing that we simultaneously contribute to & withdraw from during the session. Community is created in many ways and just being together, feeling all of your emotions, and sharing breath is one way.

White Supremacy & Heteronormativity are toxic societal ills that poison us all. However those who are "racialized" or othered due to gender are affected in ways not shared by those in the dominant culture. Having space outside of the dominant culture where we can just be without being subject to the dominant gaze or sterotyped expectations is the first step in being able to release some of our energetic armor. If you are an anti-racist or queer accomplice (accomplices are needed more than allies), the best way to support justice in this context would be to spread the word and/or financially support this work. Click here to find out how to do so.

You don't actually have to decide between them. Many of my individual clients also come to Community Sessions. And if you are doing a Solo Journey, Pleasure Pod, or Solo Stimulation Support, your entry to any of the Community Sessions is included (provided you fall within the appropriate demographics). The Community Sessions don't require any commitment between them, you can attend once a month, once a quarter, once a year, whenever is convenient (however the more regularly you come, the more you'll get out of them).

Instead of a sliding scale I have 3 different payment tiers. All tiers give access to the same information/attention at the events. There is nothing you have to prove to me about your financial situation, I don't ask for your tax returns or pay stubs. I simply ask that you do some honest reflection about your current financial reality from a mindset of abundance rather than one of scarcity & then choose the tier meets that reality.  The tiers are named as they are to reflect the amount of “green” you have access to. The Meadow Tier is my “market rate”; Garden Tier is for those for whom market rate would be a hardship; and Savanna Tier is for those with abundant discretionary income.

The ticketing app that I use charges a fee (pretty much all online ticketing apps do). For the Meadow & Savanna Tiers, the fees are included in the rates listed. For the Garden Tier, I absorb the fee.

If you have wealth, I ask you to strongly consider paying at the Savanna tier to support this work & the community of folx who desire it. Your payment at this tier allows me to continue to sustainably offer low cost or free events.

Choose Savanna Tier

if more than one of the following is true for you:

• You have a large discretionary budget.

• You own your own home or rent a high-end property.

• You own more than one home.

• You have investments, retirement accounts, or inherited money.

• You are unemployed or underemployed by choice.

• You travel frequently for recreation.

• You have access to family money and resources in times of need.

• You have a relatively high degree of earning power due to level of education (or gender and racial privilege, class background, etc.) even if you are not currently exercising that power.

• You want to financially support making this work financially accessible for others.

Choose Meadow Tier

if you can comfortably invest in your own personal growth without negative financial repercussions, even if you have to make some sacrifices here & there (sacrifice is different from hardship).

Choose Garden Tier

if more than one of the following is true for you:

• You are on a limited or stretched budget. 

• You have no savings.

• You have dependents & that sometimes prevents you making ends meet.

• You receive public assistance. 

• You are unemployed or underemployed.

• You have significant medical or educational debt

• You are eligible for public assistance

• You have immigration-related expenses

• You are an elder with limited financial support

• You are an unpaid community organizer

• You are a returning citizen who has been denied work due to incarceration history

If you have wealth, I ask you to consider paying at the Savanna tier to support this work & the community of folx who desire it. Your payment at this tier allows me to continue to offer low cost or free events.

Some of Group Journeys have no limit on attendees. For the Cybercourses, there is a limit of 15-25 people. depending on the course.

I’ve designed these courses to integrate flexibly into busy lives and schedules. Because they’re online courses, all of the sessions will be recorded, so you can always listen later if you can’t make a session live. You’ll also be able to tailor your practice activities in between course sessions to the schedule that works best for you. Whether you’re on vacation, at home, or out working at a coffee shop, the course contents and platform will be accessible you.

I pay a lot of attention to the careful creation of containers, in which bodies can feel safe enough and relax enough to speak openly. For the Cybercourses, I have a “vibe check” to vet people to make sure they’re a good fit. Personally, I am non-judgmental, super accepting, and kind. I expect all the participants in this group to be so as well. It is a risk for everyone to show up vulnerably, and trust the group to hold them, so we will do our very best to make sure you are well met. If anything comes up that is distressing to someone in the group, every effort will be made to ensure they feel safe and welcome, even if at a growth edge. I do distinguish between safety and comfort, and know that most of our profound transformative learning comes at that intersection.

Barring medical emergencies, there are no refunds given. The group journeys are designed for folks who are ready to make a serious transformation in their lives, and the financial commitment is an important component of sticking with yourself. And really, the journeys are worth a lot more than what I’m charging, and it's a big pain in the butt to deal with refunds. That said, if you go all of the way through any serial course, come to all of the calls and complete all of the assignments and you end up not feeling like you got absolutely no value out of it, I'll split the difference with you, and send you half of what you paid.

My Private Sessions are virtual only. I have a great deal of experience in virtual facilitation, having started doing way before Covid-19 pandemic forced events online. If your group desires an in-person event, we can negotiate travel & lodging fees.

I work with universities, corporations, volunteer groups & non-profits. The size/type of the organization is not important, the intention & commitment of the stakeholders (however you define them) is.

The Pleasure Pod sessions are for twosomes or threesomes that are looking to "spice things up a bit" or wanting to explore new things together. They are absolutely not a substitute for relationship or individual therapy, and could possibly worsen any unaddressed existing cracks in the foundation of your relationship.

Each Oshun's Oasis session is only 55 minutes. It's best for folx who are very self-directed and/or only have one issue they're trying to address and/or who know that they are deeply impacted by breathwork. There is very little discussion during a session, and almost never give home exercises.

The Respiration’s Root session is 2hrs & prepares you to create your own Erotic Breathwork sessions. Cawo's Chrysalis sessions are 90 minutes.

You don't actually have to decide between them. Many of my individual clients also come to Community Sessions. And if you are doing a Solo or Partner Journey, your entry to any of the Community Sessions is included (provided you fall within the appropriate demographics). The Community Sessions don't require any ongoing commitment; you can attend once a month, once a quarter, once a year, whenever is convenient (however the more regularly you come, the more you'll get out of them).

I do not take insurance.

I generally offer a discount to sexworkers & other healers only.

I want my work to be as accessible as possible in as sustainable a manner as possible. If the cost alone would prevent you from a Solo Journey, let's chat about ways to make it doable for both of us. I offer payment plans, limited bartering, and 1-3 pro-bono sessions a year.  

All clients who want to engage in the work of transforming their erotic & sexual lives are welcome. Regardless of ability, gender, spiritual tradition, sexual orientation or preference, sexuality, or relationship orientation or preference.

I do not offer sessions to those who are looking for “fantasy experiences” rather than the work of actual transformation. I will not work with T.R.A.S.H. people (transphobic, racist, ableist, sexist, or homophobic).

While I believe that sexwork is work & is a legitimate occupation, I do not offer sexwork services. I will not be nude with you, ever. I’m not being coy, I’m not trying to get around censors, I just truly, really, actually do not offer those types of services.

If you’re looking for mutual nudity & mutual masturbation, please look elsewhere.

However if you are a straight man wanting to do the work to transform your erotic, spirtual, and/or sex life within a co-created boundaried container, I welcome you.

I’m sorry that this note is necessary, but every single straight man who has contacted me has behaved extremely inappropriately somewhere along the line.